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An Elder Suicide Primer

An Introduction to a Late Life Tragedy

What's the problem?

Someone age 65 or over completes suicide every 90 minutes -- 16 deaths a day. Elders account for one-fifth of all suicides, but only 12% of the population. White males over age 85 are at the highest risk and complete suicide at almost six times the national average. The suicide rate among elders is two to three times higher than in younger age groups. Elder suicide may be under-reported 40% or more. Omitted are "silent suicides", i.e., completions from medical noncompliance and overdoses, self-starvation or dehydration, and "accidents." The elderly have a high suicide rate because they use firearms, hanging, and drowning. The ratio of suicide attempts to completions is 4:1 compared to 16:1 among younger adults. "Double suicides" involving spouses or partners occur most frequently among the aged. Elder attempters have less chance of discovery because of greater social isolation and less chance of survival because of greater physical frailty and the use of highly lethal means.

What are the causes?

Elder suicide is associated with depression and factors causing depression, e.g., chronic illness, physical impairment, unrelieved pain, financial stress, loss and grief, social isolation, and alcoholism. Depression is tied to low serotonin levels. Serotonin, which decreases with aging, is a neurotransmitter which limits self-destructive behavior. Depression remains under-diagnosed and undertreated in the elderly. Conwell (2001) reminds us that while these variables are significant, elder suicide has a complex and multivariate etiology:

"General understanding of suicide among older people is often oversimplified, ascribed to a single factor such as severe physical illness or depression. The reality is far more complex. There is no single cause for any suicide, and no two can be understood to result from exactly the same constellation of factors."

The "Older Adults: Depression and Suicide Facts (Fact Sheet)" outlines the role of depression among at-risk elders. S.A.V.E. notes that depression is not to be seen as normal among aged adults in "Elderly Depression". "Factors Collide to Increase Suicide Risk in Elderly" reports on research on mood disorders and elder suicide.

What are some of the key risk factors of elder suicide?

  • Loss of spouse.
  • A late onset depressive disorder.
  • A debilitating and/or terminal illness.
  • Severe chronic/intractable pain.
  • Decreasing independence and self-sufficiency.
  • Decreased socialization and social supports.
  • Risk often accumulates among the elderly. An individual may be white, male, and an alcohol mis-user and then becomes a widower or depressed.

What are some of the myths of elder suicide?

  • It is the outcome of a rational decision and justified.
  • Elder victims are usually seriously or terminally ill.
  • Only very severely depressed elders are at risk of suicide.
  • Suicidal elders never give any indication of their intent.
  • The suicide of an older person is different from that of a younger individual.   

What are the warning signs?

The following may indicate serious risk:

  • Loss of interest in things or activities that are usually found enjoyable.
  • Cutting back social interaction, self-care, and grooming.
  • Breaking medical regimens (e.g., going off diets, prescriptions).
  • Experiencing or expecting a significant personal loss (e.g., spouse).
  • Feeling hopeless and/or worthless ("Who needs me?").
  • Putting affairs in order, giving things away, or making changes in wills.
  • Stock-piling medication or obtaining other lethal means.

Other clues are a preoccupation with death or a lack of concern about personal safety. "Good-byes" such as "This is the last time that you'll see me" or "I won't need anymore appointments" should raise concern. The most significant indicator is an expression of suicidal intent.

Why aren't community agencies or providers doing more?

Service involvement with older men:

Community agencies basically serve elderly women who have a suicide rate well under the national mean for all ages. Community agencies may be little concerned because elder suicide is uncommon in their caseloads.

Agency philosophy:

The prevailing value in most services for the aged is to optimize self-sufficiency in terms of individual capability and safety. A commitment to autonomy may cause community agencies to let the client or patient control decisions on referrals to other resources, alerting relatives, or involving available services.

Agency Misconceptions:

Community agencies and providers may accept some of the myths about suicide such as:

  • Those who complete suicide do not seek help before their attempt.
  • Those who kill themselves must be crazy.
  • Asking someone about suicide can lead to suicide.
  • Pain goes along with aging so nothing can be done.
  • It makes sense for an old person to want to end their suffering.
  • Old people are used to death and loss and don't feel it like younger folks.
  • Those who talk about suicide rarely actually do it.

How many health or human service professionals, other staff, and volunteers believe these statements to be true?

Lack of risk assessment:

A lack of attention to elder suicide and a concentration on client or patient self-determination and self-sufficiency may limit community agencies' response. Most community agencies do not recognize the problem and consequently do little or no screening for it among their clientele.

For a brief case study on how miscommunication and no communication almost led to a tragedy see "How Elder Suicides Happen"(MS-WORD).

What can community agencies do?

Individual prevention must focus on what drives suicide. Shneidman (1995) notes:

"...it is best to look upon any suicidal act as an effort by an individual to stop unbearable anguish...by 'doing something.' ...The way to save a person's life is also to 'do something.' Those 'something’s' include putting that information (that the person is in trouble with himself) into the stream of communication, letting others know about it, breaking what could be called a fatal secret, talking to the person, talking to others, proffering help, getting loved ones interested and responsive, creating action around the person, showing response, indicating interest, and, if possible, showing deep concern."

"Doing something" basically comes down to caring.

Community level prevention of late life suicides will require "creative partnerships of primary care providers, the mental health sector, aging services, and other agencies and insurers..." (Conwell 2001). This means that senior centers, home care providers, hospices, adult day care, home-delivered meals programs, para-transit, and other organizations serving the elderly are going to have to team up with community mental health centers. This must start soon as the high risk "old old" segment of the aged population is growing rapidly and the oldest baby boomers are within a few years of turning 65. The boomers will arrive in their "golden years" having manifested higher suicide rates on the way than prior generations (McIntosh 1992). In 1983, Haas and Hendin observed that in the absence of meaningful prevention demographics alone will drive a possible doubling of the incidence of elder suicide by 2030.

What are some of the needs of Suicide Survivors?

Let us be who we've become -- people changed by tragedy. Just try to "be there" and support whatever form our grief takes. Trying to understand is okay, but just caring is enough. Realize that you can't possibly relate to what we are experiencing. You don't have to. 

Mourning a death by suicide is a lengthy, intense and confusing process. It is also unique; each of us experiences grief in our own way.

Because suicide is a sudden, unexpected and often violent loss, the grief it causes is excruciating, prolonged, and still often stigmatized. This may cause us to withdraw socially. We may even feel responsible for our loss. Those who witness the suicide or find the body may suffer post traumatic stress.

We don't "get over" a suicide. The effects may stabilize, but the loss is forever felt. Our personal values and beliefs are shattered and we are changed emotionally.

Every suicide survivor needs immediate support at the time of the loss. Individualized or family counseling, medical care, and participation in on-going support groups can be extremely helpful.

To read a heartbreaking first-hand account of the aftermath of a loved one's suicide, click HERE.

Suicide Survivors

"There are always two parties to a death; the person who dies and the survivors who are bereaved."
-Arnold Toynbee

A suicide survivor is an individual who has lost someone he/she cared for deeply to suicide. The victim may have been a parent, child, spouse, sibling, other relative, partner, or friend. It is estimated that every suicide leaves six to eight "survivors."



More YouTube Videos:

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Katie Couric's Notebook: Teen Suicide

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Lidia's Story: Suicide Loss Survivor

Survivor's of Suicide Day

Clip from AFSP's National Survivors of Suicide Day Program (2009)

Abraham: Son's in Non-Physical

"One often calms one's grief by recounting it." ~ Pierre Corneille

It's okay to talk about "it" because that's all that's on our minds. Let any statements we make about respon-sibility, blame, or guilt just flow. It will sort itself out over time. Please mention our loved one, whether it was a child, spouse, sibling, parent or other loved one. Avoid setting any timetable for recovery as there isn't any.

Some suicide survivors find it uncomfortable to speak about the loss. With this in mind, it's wise simply to ask, "How are you feeling? Can we talk about it?" And then be willing to listen.


Taken in part from lifegard.tripod.com.

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