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Books that Help

Griefabet: Everyday Grief Letters to Wrap Around your Heart

by Karen O. Johnson, MEd.

A comfort book for anyone living with loss, Griefabet guides readers from A to Z along their personal grief journey. The book’s website, www.Griefabet.com, includes a forum where visitors can share their grief story for increased healing and support. Sympathetic to the many layers and complexities of grief, Griefabet lets the reader take charge, offering comfort on every page, in any order, on any day. Readers can look at one page each day for 26 days of support, or read at their own pace to help endure their unique sadness.

I am Not Myself: A Year Grieving Suicide (Kindle Edition)

By Julie Gray

A raw and poignant book, I am Not Myself is a must-read for those coping with and trying make sense of the senseless - suicide. I am Not Myself is also an imperative read for those worried about loved ones suffering from anxiety or depression. Part how-to, part salve for the soul, I am Not Myself is an honest and a loving tribute to a brother lost too soon.

  • Format: Kindle Edition
  • File Size: 63 KB
  • Sold by: Amazon Digital Services
  • Kindle price: $2.99

On Grief and Grieving: Finding the Meaning of Grief Through the Five Stages of Loss

By Elisabeth Kubler-Ross and David Kessler

Grief and Grieving will profoundly influence the way we experience the process of grief.

Life After Loss: Conquering Grief and Finding Hope

By Raymond Moody, Dianne Arcangel

How the grieving process can transform our fear and grief into spiritual and emotional growth.

 

The Five Ways We Grieve: Finding your Personal Path to Healing after the Loss of a Loved One

By Susan A. Berger

A fascinating new view of what happens to people who lose loved ones. The Five Ways We Grieve helps us discover who we have become in order to give our lives meaning and purpose.

Understanding Your Grief: Essential Touchstones for Finding Hope and Healing Your Heart

By Alan D. Wolfelt, Ph.D.

Explains the important difference between grief and mourning and answers the questions to allow mourners to allow themselves to grieve.

The Understanding Your Grief Journal: Exploring the Ten Essential Touchstones

By Alan D. Wolfelt, Ph.D.

This companion workbook to Understanding Your Grief:Ten Essential Touchstones for Finding Hope and Healing Your Heart is designed to help mourners explore the many facets of their unique grief through journaling.

The Ten Things to Do When Your Life Falls Apart: An Emotional and Spiritual Handbook

By Daphne Rose Kingma

We live in a culture that’s afraid of grieving; we don’t know how to cry. When our lives fall apart in one way or another, we usually try to take control of things and solve them, forget them, or deny them ― rather than experience them, accept them, or see the meaning they may hold for us.

A Grief Observed

By C. S. Lewis

(2001) Harper San Francisco

A Grief Observed is an exploration of Lewis’s thoughts and questions brought about by the grief at the passing of his wife. The book is written sporadically, suggesting short bursts of thought, in a stream of consciousness style of writing. Some trains of thought are constantly revisited while others seem to be more fleeting. He begins by reflecting on the sensations of grief.

No Time to Say Goodbye

By Fine, C. (1999) Mainsfield, OH: Main Street Books

No Time to Say Goodbye is both a first-person account of Ms. Fine's journey of healing and a presentation of her research on the lives of more that 100 women and men who have lost loved ones to suicide. She also interviewed a number of mental health professionals and others who specialize in the field of suicide survivors. The book is full of stories and heartache, struggle and loss, courage and inspiration.

The Year of Magical Thinking

by Joan Didion, Borzoi Book, 2005

This powerful book is the author’s attempt to make sense of the "weeks and then months that cut loose any fixed idea I ever had about death, about illness...about marriage and children and memory...about the shallowness of sanity, about life itself." The author spares nothing in describing her confusion, grief, and derangement, with surpassing clarity and honesty.

When Things Fall Apart: Heart Advice for Difficult Times

by Pema Chodron, Shambala, 1997

Useful advice about how Buddhism helps readers cope with the grim realities of modern life, including fear, despair, rage and the feeling that we are not in control of our lives. Through reflections on the central Buddhist teaching of right mindfulness, Chodron orients readers and gives them language with which to shape their thinking about the ordinary and extraordinary traumas of modern life.

Healing After Loss, Daily Meditations For Working Through Grief

by M.W. Hickman, HarperCollins, 1994/2002.

For those who have suffered the loss of a loved one, here are strength and thoughtful words to inspire and comfort. Full of thoughtful reflections, wise words and healing affirmations.

How to Go on Living When Someone You Love Dies

by Therese A. Rando, Ph.D., Lexington Books, 1998

Mourning the death of a loved one is a process all of us will go through at one time or another. But wherever the death is sudden or anticipated, few of us are prepared for it or for the grief it brings. This book leads you gently through the painful but necessary process of grieving and helps you find the best way for yourself. Author of Loss And Anticipatory Grief.

When Bad Things Happen to Good People

by Harold S. Kushner, Schocken Books, 1981

This little book was written as a way to bring solace and hope to Rabbi Kushner after the death of his teenage son. Over the last twenty years it has comforted millions of readers who also have been hurt by life and seek to find the resources to cope when tragedy strikes. This book is for those who want to believe in God’s goodness and fairness, but find it hard because of the things that have happened to you and to people you care about.

The Mourning Handbook

by Helen Fitzgerald, Fireside Books, 1995

Designed to conform to the special needs of the bereaved, The Mourning Handbook is written and organized in an accessible style punctuated by real stories of people who have experienced every kind of loss. The author gives special attention to the complex emotions that can accompany especially traumatic situations. This book is written as a companion to those mourners in need of practical and emotional assistance during the trying times before and after the death of a loved one.

Learning to Say Goodbye: When a Parent Dies

by Eda Le Shan, MacMillan, 1974

Good for an older child or adult. Beautifully written from a subjective viewpoint. This book shows how death is perceived when one is “protected” by others. It also explores many myths about death and dying.

The Courage to Grieve

by Judy Tatelbaum, New York: Lippincott & Crowell, 1980

This book about surviving grief offers the reader comfort and inspiration. Each of us will face some loss, sorrow and disappointment in our lives, and The Courage to Grieve provides the specific help we need to enable us to face our grief fully and to recover and grow from the experience. Although the book emphasizes the response to the death of a loved one, it can also be helpful with every kind of loss and grief.

Journeying East: Conversations on Aging and Dying

by Victoria Jean Dimidjian, Parallax Press, 2004

Buddhist spiritual leaders discuss aging and dying, including original interviews with Ram Dass, Frank Ostaseski, Norman Fisher, Thich Nhat Hanh, Joan Halifax, Rodney Smith, and others – each of whom has understood and met the challenges of later life. Their intellectual and spiritual wisdom, leavened with humor, will comfort anyone dealing with the realities of aging and death. Contains 9 meditations on aging and death, and a reading list.

Companion Through the Darkness: Inner Dialogues on Grief

by Stephanie Ericsson, Harper Perennial, 1993

Combining excerpts from her own journal and brief essays, this book intimately legitimizes the complex and often taboo emotions we all feel when loss transforms our lives. Each short, but profound, chapter offers readers lasting support and normality of the grief process while learning to live with their losses.

Unattended Sorrow

by Stephen Levine, Rodale, 2005

Unattended sorrow is unresolved grief that has never been given a chance to heal. With poetic and loving language, Levine illustrates that when we confront the sorrows we’ve endured with both mercy and self-acceptance, we can travel a smoother path to healing the heart. Includes techniques to help heal this pain so readers can lead full and joyful lives.

Light in Blue Shadows

by Edie Hartshorne, Ellsberg Books, 2007

Through the tragic and unexpected loss of her eldest son, Edie Hartshorne is guided by music, spiritual exploration, and a sensitivity for nature to discover the hidden radiance of her own inner strength. Her transformational journey through grief unfolds like a living work of art, inspiring us to remain open to kindness and compassion even in the midst of suffering.

A letter from Ram Das: Beautiful and Inspiring

Read online HERE

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"My grief lies all within, and these external manners of lament

are merely shadows to the unseen grief

that swells with silence in the tortured soul."

~William Shakespeare

 

What are some of the needs of Suicide Survivors?

Let us be who we've become -- people changed by tragedy. Just try to "be there" and support whatever form our grief takes. Trying to understand is okay, but just caring is enough. Realize that you can't possibly relate to what we are experiencing. You don't have to. 

Mourning a death by suicide is a lengthy, intense and confusing process. It is also unique; each of us experiences grief in our own way.

Because suicide is a sudden, unexpected and often violent loss, the grief it causes is excruciating, prolonged, and still often stigmatized. This may cause us to withdraw socially. We may even feel responsible for our loss. Those who witness the suicide or find the body may suffer post traumatic stress.

We don't "get over" a suicide. The effects may stabilize, but the loss is forever felt. Our personal values and beliefs are shattered and we are changed emotionally.

Every suicide survivor needs immediate support at the time of the loss. Individualized or family counseling, medical care, and participation in on-going support groups can be extremely helpful.

To read a heartbreaking first-hand account of the aftermath of a loved one's suicide, click HERE.

Suicide Survivors

"There are always two parties to a death; the person who dies and the survivors who are bereaved."
-Arnold Toynbee

A suicide survivor is an individual who has lost someone he/she cared for deeply to suicide. The victim may have been a parent, child, spouse, sibling, other relative, partner, or friend. It is estimated that every suicide leaves six to eight "survivors."

ShatteredHeart

 

More YouTube Videos:

Dedicated to Suicide Survivor's

Katie Couric's Notebook: Teen Suicide

National Survivor's of Suicide Day

Lidia's Story: Suicide Loss Survivor

Survivor's of Suicide Day

Clip from AFSP's National Survivors of Suicide Day Program (2009)

Abraham: Son's in Non-Physical

"One often calms one's grief by recounting it." ~ Pierre Corneille

It's okay to talk about "it" because that's all that's on our minds. Let any statements we make about respon-sibility, blame, or guilt just flow. It will sort itself out over time. Please mention our loved one, whether it was a child, spouse, sibling, parent or other loved one. Avoid setting any timetable for recovery as there isn't any.

Some suicide survivors find it uncomfortable to speak about the loss. With this in mind, it's wise simply to ask, "How are you feeling? Can we talk about it?" And then be willing to listen.

 

Taken in part from lifegard.tripod.com.

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